This is a re-print of an article that I wrote for The Witches’ Voice. It came out today and I thought I would share here.
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As per Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.1)
tol·er·ance [tol-er-uhns]
-noun 1. a fair, objective, and permissive attitude toward those whose opinions, practices, race, religion, nationality, etc., differ from one’s own; freedom from bigotry.
Tolerance. This is a reasonably straightforward and comprehensive definition.
As per Synonym Collection v1.1
Main Entry: tolerance
Synonyms: compassion, endurance, fortitude, hardiness, indulgence, leeway, leniency, mercy, patience, steadfastness, sufferance, sympathy, threshold, understanding
When scrutinizing the list of synonyms, it is unlikely that anyone will dispute that tolerance is an essential attribute for harmonious human interaction. Patience and understanding are proven attitudes that lead to the most productive communication. Leniency and indulgence show the way to acceptance of diversity. Compassion, possibly the most important of the list, allows us to move forward in the spirit of camaraderie and amity, even when we do not fully comprehend our differences. On the contrary, the antonyms – bigotry, prejudice, narrow- or small-mindedness, fanaticism – all have undoubtedly strong negative connotation and are clearly counterproductive for any interpersonal relations.
In a world where opinion, culture, gender, nationality, sexual identity, and spiritual path are combined in incalculable variation and permutation, it would seem that tolerance should be everyone’s primary concern. However, it appears that intolerance and narrow-mindedness abound with an exponentially growing rate.
Bigotry can be painful in any avenue, but it can be particularly agonizing when one’s most fundamental (and often ardent) belief structures are assailed or demeaned. Denying the validity of a person’s religious choice is often taken as a debasement of the person themselves and their most personal, sacred self. People identify closely with their spiritual path and can become emotionally distraught when that path is attacked, defiled or ridiculed. Whether one is a member of a Wiccan Coven, a Catholic Church, the Imperial Order of the Holy Knights of Turpentine, or some personal spiritual path outside established traditions, it matters not – the knee-jerk reaction to derision or degradation is the same and all are equally legitimate feelings.
It is not uncommon as a Pagan practitioner to come in contact with intolerance for (what is often assumed to be) their belief structure or spiritual practices. The community as a whole has been painted with a brush that is largely undeserved. Most people that identify themselves as some form of Pagan, be they Wiccan, Witch, Druid, Heathen, Shaman, Eclectic or one of the abundant other paths, have had personal experience with discriminatory or bigoted behaviors.
The incidents can range in intensity from an unconscious or flippant remark to terrifying hate crimes. Regardless of the severity of the episode it can lead to a range of complicated, negative emotions from disillusionment and cynicism, anger and resentment, to despair and despondency; all things that destroy harmonious human interaction, sowing discord and animosity. Whether born of ignorance, fear or megalomania, the behaviors are inexcusable.
For some time now, “Tolerance!” has been one of the loudest war cries of the Pagan community. The First Amendment of the US Constitution states “Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.” By that measure, tolerance and acceptance are not merely requested by Pagans, but demanded as a fundamental, Constitutional right and appropriately so.
Unfortunately, there seems to be an alarming precedent of prejudice against non-Pagans, more specifically Christians, in Pagan circles. Detailing the ghastliness of Christian ideology, history, and dogma with malicious glee or self-righteous assertion is often the theme de jour in Pagan circles, discussion groups, and online forums. Frequently Pagans refer to themselves as “Recovered-Christians, ” as if Christianity is a disease like alcoholism that can be cured with willpower, a little incense and some chanting. It should be kept in mind that Christianity is also a valid, devout Spiritual path; regardless that Christians follow a theology completely divergent to most Pagan beliefs.
However, more often than not, Christians are portrayed not as individuals on a legitimate Spiritual path, with unique assets and imperfections, but are lumped together into the category of sexist, materialist, controlling, bigoted, Witch Burners. With these overwhelming attitudes of animosity and intolerance, is it any wonder that we Pagans are treated in kind? While respect often begets respect, the converse is also very true – contempt breeds contempt, fueling a vicious cycle of resentment and retaliation.
Often Pagans justify their anti-Christian sentiments by saying that the communal “We, ” as a religious collective, never burned anyone for their Spiritual beliefs or participated in a bloody Crusade. This is very likely true. However, it is just as unlikely that anyone alive today has either. The Crusades lasted from 1101 to 1272, the European Burning Times were 1450 – 1700, and the Salem Witch Trials were in 1692.
For exactly how long do you maintain a grudge – three centuries, four, half a millennia?
Is it permissible to hold an entire religious organization responsible for what their distant ancestors did? For that matter, a large majority of Pagans can claim some of those ancestors as their own! Should we ostracize everyone who has a questionable predecessor, regardless of his or her impeccable character? Are the sins of the father, truly the sins of the son?
There will always be slavering fanatics, in all walks of life, who will speak against our personal paths (be they Spiritual, Sexual, what have you.) Their perceptions of Pagans, no matter how calmly refuted and clearly explained, cannot be changed, so why allow them to make us angry and indignant? It should be a sign of our Spiritual maturity to recognize those who refuse to acknowledge our religious differences as valid and merely steer clear. Spirituality should bring serenity and delight into our lives, not irritation and anger or malicious riotousness.
It is often said that we should stand up and take responsibility for our actions. It is high time that the Pagan community stood up and took accountability for our vocalizations. Words, spoken and written, have consequences, sometimes more dire and lasting than actions. There is no reason not to indulge in theological debate, as long as respect reigns paramount. In fact, inter-faith discussion often provides an opportunity for growth and deeper spiritual perspective by examining personal truths more closely.
We should lead by example, not sit around and complain that others are prejudiced against our specific Spiritual choices. If we expect, nay – if we demand tolerance, we should reciprocate in kind.